Learning to Relate

Pop culture is obsessed with sex, love and relationships. It seems that nearly every TV show and every movie has some sort of romantic sub-plot, not to mention all the media that focuses on romance specifically.Television shows tend to capture the complexity of relationships more so than other forms of media, mostly because ‘happily ever…

Thoughts on Being Married

My partner (husband) and I have been together for over six years now. We got married this February, so we have been married for about 8 months.  In the grand scheme of things our wedding seemed like a small rock on the landscape of our relationship. We have been through so many more things that…

After Dating…

For some people the goal of dating to casually is to find themselves in a long term relationship of some description. Obviously this is not true for everybody. This post deals with some of the mechanics of long term relationships, many of these can be applied to relationships generally. This not about composing a set…

The Friend Zone

Note: This post refers to a commonly acknowledged trope in heterosexual dating. As a result I have only spoken in hetero terms as I am unsure if this trope exists or is as prevalent in queer dating situations. Bastion of knowledge wikipedia defines the friend zone as the following: “In popular culture, the “friend zone”…

Objectification is OK sometimes

So I said this at work this morning and was kind of surprised by the reaction.  “Oh so the feminist movement of the 70’s was worth nothing then.” Objectification is not a social ill in and of itself, as with most things, it depends on how you do it. I don’t think screaming out “nice…

Winning at (conventional) dating is still losing

I have written a little bit about my approach to dating here. The post below deals primarily with dating advice for women. Conventional dating advice turns dating into a power game, more specifically one where all guys want is sex (not true) and all women want are relationships (also not true). With this being the…