Thoughts on Being Married

My partner (husband) and I have been together for over six years now. We got married this February, so we have been married for about 8 months.  In the grand scheme of things our wedding seemed like a small rock on the landscape of our relationship. We have been through so many more things that…

Not from here

I’m facing some personal upheaval at the moment, it is good just stressful. This has made me ruminate on a few things. Once casually in conversation a friend mentioned that traveling to the Pacific Islands was the first time she had been marked visibly as an outsider or not a local. She is white and…

I’m not sorry for making you uncomfortable

Sometimes I make other people uncomfortable. This usually happens when I venture into spaces where you usually wouldn’t find someone like me, safe spaces for bigotry if you will. Where people are so used to everyone around them being just like them, coming from a similar background, sharing similar values so they don’t have to…

GayNZ.com Marriage not the end of the line, group stresses

Some of you may have heard about the social media storm regarding hate group Marriage NZ which posits to “protect marriage” by ensuring that marriage remains between one man and one woman.  They tweeted the article linked below presumably as proof that Teh Gayz are not just interested in joining the institution of marriage but…

All Apologies

This is I suppose an open letter to anyone in the public eye who has ever been called out for something. It is hard being involved in social justice. Your heroes fail you all the fucking time, that is expected, we are all human beings, no one is perfect blablabla. The problem is they then…

Objectification is OK sometimes

So I said this at work this morning and was kind of surprised by the reaction.  “Oh so the feminist movement of the 70’s was worth nothing then.” Objectification is not a social ill in and of itself, as with most things, it depends on how you do it. I don’t think screaming out “nice…

Privilege… you has it.

So In general I stay away from the comment sections of things because the internet is full of trolls and I have better things to do than poke my own eyes out with a fork. However the following exchange is such a perfect example of how privilege operates that I couldn’t resist from posting. Context:…